I have found that most, if not all, of the behaviors we find objectionable and contentious are a fundamental result of self worth. “I am not worthy” seems to be the underlying cause for many of the decisions we make from an egoic point of view. I believe our sense of inadequacy is the concept which governs and controls the world of illusions we participate in. This is an egoic concept and it is also the determinate factor which opens us to the significant relationships throughout our lives. What we strive to find in others is primarily what we feel we are lacking in ourselves. This is the basis of love, as established by the ego, for the majority of the relationships between “lovers” and friends. This is the beginning of the end in all relationships based on getting something rather than giving something. This again, is the ego trying to bargin with love as a commercial enterprise. The idea of “surrender” in a relationship is a totally foreign concept and one which would take away the power of the ego’s bargining position. If you believe that love is asking for anything, then you are making a huge mistake and engaging in the ego’s plan.
Relationships based on the premise that they somehow are unique or exceptional will eventually become more destructive and egocentric as the external approval and external love becomes disappointing and fraught with battles over who is more right or gives more, etc.
Christ said the “Kingdom of God is within”. This, too, is where Love is. Love based on external factors or egoic bargins is merely infatuation or carnal passion. This type of love seldom survives the tribulations and complications of life.
Beginning a realtionship with ego apprehension of worthiness or of getting something which is perceceived to be missing in One’s self can only result in suffering and disillusionment.
We hear the statement, ‘To be happy you must love your “self”. This is to say you must value your self. The mystery is which self is of value. The ego would convince you that it has supreme value, but “you” are not the ego! The feeling or idea that this is your real identity is the illusion which is perpetuated by an ego, desperate to preserve its existence.
The ego will go to any limit to present itself as something better than what it perceives as a weakness or deficiency. VULNERABILITY OF ANY KIND STRIKES FEAR INTO THE EGO. This is the reason the ego can never love, for love is the allowing of one’s self to be totally vulnerable. Fear and love cannot exist at the same time. Where there is fear, there is no love, but rather, a compromise of conditioned perceptions and beliefs. These conditioned perceptions tell us that if we do this or that, then the other person will love us and we will get love in return. This, again, is the bargining agreement that the ego uses to justify the love in the relationship.
Love does not bargin or demand. Love gives without conditions of ideas of reciprocal acts. It is only when we discover the true worth of the true Self that we are capable to trust enough to surrender and to love.
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